Wednesday, July 2, 2008

How to Meet New People Without Being Creepy

  1. Stop limiting yourself! If you go into the situation thinking people will reject your attempt at striking up conversation, you will ultimately be unapproachable. Most people are generally friendly, and everyone enjoys making new friends. If someone does happen to be unresponsive, don't worry! Who wants to be friends with him/her?
  2. Have a positive relationship with yourself. Be confident in who you are, your beliefs, your likes/dislikes, and have a solid understanding of what you are about. This gives you a personality and confidence! You need both to make friends (who like YOU).
  3. Try asking for their opinion on something. This person will be flattered you value his/her thoughts on the subject matter. Also, try being witty or making a small joke. Laughter is a great way to break the ice.
  4. Be honest. Don't try to impress or boast.
  5. Ask questions about school or directions. Strike up a conversation - any conversation! No one said you had to have a profound first remark which enlightens the other person's being.
  6. Try flattery! Make sure you are sincere and pick a compliment which is directed specifically to the other person. Instead of "cute jeans" try "I can see by that (title of band)'s cd in your hand you have great taste in music!
  7. Join clubs or do charity work with subjects that interest you. If you find it interesting you'll automatically find other people who do as well.
  8. Don't judge others - it will keep you from making new friends more than anything else. Never pass up the opportunity to be nice to someone else.
  9. Be patient. Realize it may take some time.
  10. Ask people about fun places to hang out.
Tips
  • Have a positive attitude. If you assume that they are going to think you are creepy, you might act in a way that makes them think that. If you have the attitude that they will like you and you behave like you really believe that, you will get a remarkably better response.
  • Forced smiles look unnatural, instead try to feel how you feel when things are really going your way. If you get to that place you'll have a smile without even trying.
  • Be interesting. If you aren't interesting, work on it.
  • Stop thinking and worrying about how others perceive you. If you obsess that people will think of you as creepy during social settings they are bound to!
  • It's best to go up to someone who looks friendly, bored or who smiles at you.
Warnings

People might think you're creepy and ignore you anyway. A lot of people are like that because they're overly protective of themselves. In this case, they are the creepy ones, and you don't have to worry about meeting them.

25 places to meet new people

Learn where to meet new people. In this fast paced world, a lot of people out there are lonely. Change your attitude and get out there and make new friends.

In this fast paced world we live in, sometimes we don't make time to socialize. Before you know it, your friends have all gone their own ways and often you are left alone. You sit night after night watching TV or spending time on the computer.

The computer you say, can help you meet people. Sometimes it can, but more often than not, it's just faceless, meaningless chatroom conversation. It's better to get outside of your home, see people face-to-face, socialize and have fun!

There are many reasons you may not get out to meet people. You're too busy, too tired, too shy, too frustrated by the social scene, and just overwhelmed by it all. But the alternative is to be alone.

Listed next are 25 places to meet people. Some ideas to help get you motivated to go out and make some new friends. All you have to do is leave your house! You have nothing to lose and so much to gain: FRIENDS! Change your attitude, be open to possibilities, relax, and have fun. Bars and nightclubs are not mentioned as there are many better and preferred ways to meet people.

1)Join a health club: solves two problems; you'll become less of a couch potato and more fit. Think of all the people you will meet. The friends you meet here will most likely be healthy, athletic and attractive. You'll look better and feel better at the same time.

2)Take a class, any class: again a two in one tactic; you'll learn something new and make new friends with similar interests. Conversation is easier if you have something in common.

3)Go to Museums: Many museums have special events and members only events. Become a member and meet lots of cultured people.

4)Got to sporting events: Go to sporting events of any kind; soccer, football, basketball, etc. Go to professional games or college games, guaranteed to have fun.

5)Go to Flea Markets and Antique Shows: While you're browsing the finds, you can people watch.

6)Play a Sport: Have you ever wanted to play soccer after watching a game on TV? Lots of towns have adult sport programs. Volleyball and tennis are common town recreational sports you could join.

7)Join a Book Club: Check this out at your local library. Reading books and sharing them is another great way to get to know people.

8)Join a Singles Group: Self-explanatory, there are many singles organizations out there that plan singles dances, get-aways, etc.

9)Volunteer: Help build houses for Habitat for Humanity; give out beverages at marathons, or join one of the many volunteer organizations.

10)Have a Party: Invite your friends and have them invite two friends and so on and so on.

11)Learn a craft: take craft classes at your local community center.

12)Join a Business Association: If you are a professional, join your local association. Network for your business and your personal life.

13)Go to High School/College Reunions: A great way to reconnect with your old best friend!

14)Get a Dog and Walk Everywhere: go to parks and the beach with your dog. Dogs are great people meeters!

15)Go to every Party you are invited to: even if you don't want to go...go. You never know who you'll meet.

16)Join an Investment Club: make money and friends!

17)Travel: go to the islands; Europe; talk to everyone. Learn about their culture.

18)Go to seminars: lots of people go to seminars alone; great place to start a conversation.

19)Go to Wine Tastings: sometimes local restaurants have a wine-tasting night.

20)Go skiing, snowmobiling, snowboarding

21)Take a yoga, Tai Chi class: relieve tensions and meet other enlightened people.

22)Get a new job: Is your job boring, going nowhere, maybe you need a change. A new job is a great place to make some new relationships.

23)Join a women's or men's group

24)Take up acting; go to acting workshops, help create scenery.

25)Talk to everyone, everywhere

As you can see, these are not difficults methods.

They are tried and true. Remember, you can never have too many friends!