- Stop limiting yourself! If you go into the situation thinking people will reject your attempt at striking up conversation, you will ultimately be unapproachable. Most people are generally friendly, and everyone enjoys making new friends. If someone does happen to be unresponsive, don't worry! Who wants to be friends with him/her?
- Have a positive relationship with yourself. Be confident in who you are, your beliefs, your likes/dislikes, and have a solid understanding of what you are about. This gives you a personality and confidence! You need both to make friends (who like YOU).
- Try asking for their opinion on something. This person will be flattered you value his/her thoughts on the subject matter. Also, try being witty or making a small joke. Laughter is a great way to break the ice.
- Be honest. Don't try to impress or boast.
- Ask questions about school or directions. Strike up a conversation - any conversation! No one said you had to have a profound first remark which enlightens the other person's being.
- Try flattery! Make sure you are sincere and pick a compliment which is directed specifically to the other person. Instead of "cute jeans" try "I can see by that (title of band)'s cd in your hand you have great taste in music!
- Join clubs or do charity work with subjects that interest you. If you find it interesting you'll automatically find other people who do as well.
- Don't judge others - it will keep you from making new friends more than anything else. Never pass up the opportunity to be nice to someone else.
- Be patient. Realize it may take some time.
- Ask people about fun places to hang out.
- Have a positive attitude. If you assume that they are going to think you are creepy, you might act in a way that makes them think that. If you have the attitude that they will like you and you behave like you really believe that, you will get a remarkably better response.
- Forced smiles look unnatural, instead try to feel how you feel when things are really going your way. If you get to that place you'll have a smile without even trying.
- Be interesting. If you aren't interesting, work on it.
- Stop thinking and worrying about how others perceive you. If you obsess that people will think of you as creepy during social settings they are bound to!
- It's best to go up to someone who looks friendly, bored or who smiles at you.
People might think you're creepy and ignore you anyway. A lot of people are like that because they're overly protective of themselves. In this case, they are the creepy ones, and you don't have to worry about meeting them.
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